So it is not a surprise that we fail to look for or see alternate points of view in many a situation. The checker shadow illusion was developed by Edward H. Adelson, professor of vision science at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology.
When one looks at squares A and B without the context of the cone and its shadow, both of them look similar in colour. This happens because human perception is shaped by the context in which we see things.
Chiselling away all the historical and societal contextual factors around an issue and then presenting it in a selectively revised context is an oft-used strategy by many information manipulators.
The solution to tackle such an insidious strategy of information manipulation is not to treat it as a war of information between various truths. The lay individual does not have the time nor the inclination to drown in a sea of information. Manipulators thrive in an environment of deep-rooted mistrust in institutional structures and in people who are dissimilar to us.
What the world requires is a new information dissemination strategy that generates trust all around. Numbers must be avoided, and percentages all the more so, while easy-to-absorb graphic elements must be used; also, we need to use language that is simple instead of dense or overly scientific.
What matters most in effective communication is credibility. That the information provider has nothing to hide needs to be conveyed, too. This strategy will go a long way in fostering a much-needed environment of trust. When fake news is used for information manipulation, truth is the answer. But while manipulators often play the victim, the reality is that they are the ones who have caused the problem, she adds.
A person who is targeted by manipulators who play the victim often try to help the manipulator in order to stop feeling guilty, Stines says. Targets of this kind of manipulation often feel responsible for helping the victim by doing whatever they can to stop their suffering. Nice Guy. In fact, exploiting the norms and expectations of reciprocity is one of the most common forms of manipulation, says Jay Olson, a doctoral researcher studying manipulation at McGill University.
A salesperson, for example, might make it seem like because he or she gave you a deal, you should buy the product. In a relationship, a partner might buy you flowers then request something in return.
Of course, most people feel bad about lying and manipulating, but that alone is not enough to stop the abuse. Family and other loved ones must see that healing is possible, and the student must make amends that are meaningful and lasting. At RMS, we treat the whole family system because everyone has some form of hurt that they need to confront before the student can embrace a balanced adult life with adult family relationships.
Our goal is to help each student find it, grow it, and then use it for the best interest of the world in which they live. At Red Mountain Sedona, we go beyond traditional treatment methods by working with the whole person, focusing our resources on the body, mind, and soul.
Part of this process deals with helping the student realize the fundamental disrepair in their current relationships and how they have been mishandling relationships with those who are closest to them.
Understanding and then changing how they treat those in their inner circle is a critical catalyst for change. This step in healing occurs when the student has completed the two crucial steps of acknowledgment and accountability.
Our students come to accept and acknowledge that they have used lies and manipulation as a way of life, and they then agree that these life strategies are harmful. Try to avoid being guilted or shamed into doing something. If the other person threatens you, ask them about it rather than avoiding the situation. While a skilled manipulator can use emotional manipulation on nearly anyone, there are some common themes that manipulators look for.
Those who tie their self-worth to meeting the needs of others are a common victim type. Manipulators are drawn to this type of person as they are easy to manipulate, blame, and victimize. Individuals who have a hard time saying no to others are also a common type for manipulators to prey on. If you avoid conflict, that allows the manipulator to do what they want without worrying about any repercussions.
People who have trouble expressing negative emotions will typically avoid confrontation and keep things happy no matter what. As such, manipulators sometimes seek these people out as threats may be all that is needed to get whatever it is they want.
Those who have a weak sense of self often have difficulty distinguishing themselves from the abuser. That makes it especially hard to trust your own feelings or make decisions that will make you happy. While we have already mentioned ways to interact with a manipulative person, there are also things you can do yourself to raise your own self-esteem as well.
Having a higher self-confidence will help you fight against a manipulator before they are able to damage your overall well-being. If you are currently trying to get out of a manipulative relationship or environment, follow these tips and guidelines below. Understand and be aware of what is going on around you. Re-read the above material and look for things mentioned so you know how to catch them the next time around. Be aware of how manipulation works and where it leads. Listen to yourself and your feelings.
If you feel self-doubting or confused, be aware of that and consider why you are feeling that way. Pay attention to what the manipulative person is doing or saying and how that affects you.
Pay more attention to actions than words. Watch for what someone does instead and base your feelings on that. Understand that you are not the problem. If you have realized you are being manipulated, that is not your fault. Be aware that you did nothing wrong to cause it and the other person has their own problems. Be assertive for yourself. Start by choosing to stop responding to techniques the way you did before.
Say no if you want, speak up if you want. Understand that their reaction is not your responsibility. Think about the relationship with the other person. Maybe you want to speak with friends about how you feel or perhaps you want to confront the person. Consider all the options and do what is comfortable for you. Take your power back by confronting them. However, explaining how you feel and what is bothering you is not doing something wrong. Request that the other person changes their behaviors.
Take your power back and do what you need to do.
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