She decided to open her own business, which held her increasingly accountable for meetings and tasks. Her partner, who was reliably on-time, would often express his frustration. According to Rashelle Isip, an organization coach, reasons like these push people to begin addressing their lateness.
These shifts can include milestones like having a child, getting a promotion, or moving somewhere new and striving to cultivate a fresh reputation. Without the added accountability from her business and partner, Vartan wonders if she would have been as determined to adjust.
Friends and family may grumble, but they always seem to forgive their late compatriots. Even then, there are consequences. Winch agrees that much of the consequence of lateness goes unsaid.
No, and certainly not every time. But they will feel it. While it can be tougher to remain motivated without punishments, real or imagined, Sapadin notes that focusing on the positive gains of being on time can serve as a powerful incentive. Identifying the reasons that people are late is one of the first steps to concretely changing the behavior, says Sapadin. Based on her research, she has pinpointed four kinds of personalities, which can be susceptible to lateness.
Many have grappled with this quandary since childhood, but some have developed it later on in life when they had less external support and structure in their daily activities. An individual whose parents may have once reminded them to get to school on time might struggle when they enter the working world, for example. The second is the crisis maker, who thrives off the pressure and adrenaline rush of a time constraint in order to be productive.
Lateness can also be caused when we have a reluctance to change gear — to end one activity and start another. Stopping something we are absorbed in to do something else can be annoying. It takes willpower to carry out. Yet punctual people think they know that late people could decide to be on time and follow through. It is only when the latecomers make the decision to be punctual that they change.
Beat the clock: the surprising psychology behind being perpetually late. What pattern does lateness serve? Composite: Getty. Topics Time management How to get your life in order Psychology features. Reuse this content. Multitaskers will also fall prey to an irresistible temptation to do just one more thing before hitting the road. There's always something more enticing than the mundane task of traveling to the next destination. One more round of a video game, another fascinating article to read, further research on the latest and greatest idea that's on their mind.
These distractions provide a mini-thrill and feel harmless enough in the moment. It doesn't mean they don't want to spend time with you, it's simply is a form of interference that keeps them from getting out the door. One study, performed by San Diego State University psychologist, Jeff Conte, found that "Type A" personalities tend to be more aware of timeliness than the more laid back "Type B" personality. What's interesting is that the two types literally process time differently.
The more highly organized, ambitious, and impatient, Type A personalities estimated that a minute passed in 58 seconds. The more laid-back Type B personality perceives that a minute passes in 77 seconds. That second difference can add up. Apparently, there's a bit of truth in your accusation that your consistently late friend "can't tell time.
You may consider any or all of the above as behavior deficits, but they are all qualities frequently seen in the creative, innovative entrepreneur. As my colleague, Wanda Thibodeaux points out, frequent tardiness may point to qualities that bring success.
Your friend or colleague is likely an optimist, bright and creative, and possesses an ability to think on their feet. No matter the reason, the tendency to run behind time is annoying to others. The best thing you can do is to act independently in your plans. Don't depend on this person to be ready on time.
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